Workplace Australia describes bullying as behaviours that deliberately embarrass, intimidate or offends others and costs the Australian economy up to $36 billion p.a. averaging between a cool $17,000 - $24,000 per case if it goes legal.
But the true cost is in permanent psychological stress, fear, anger, and loss of self esteem –all before poor productivity, performance and absenteeism is considered.
Yet when bullying behaviour is exhibited by a woman it can be methodical and calculated leaving others immobilized for fear of retribution. Bystanders then also become culpable.
Familiar examples like keeping woman with families at work later than necessary, deliberately withholding information, creating unrealistic workloads will give female bullies the ability to demonstrate passive control that may go unnoticed or happen behind closed doors. If the behaviour becomes overt, it’s often deemed as acceptable by other female employees.
Regardless in gender neutral workplaces a bitch can go all ways, right?
The Government’s Intergenerational Report tells us in the future we’ll need to work for much longer and more productively. But with contributing factors from technology based workplaces to aging work forces, we’re facing the new dilemma of adysfunctional workplace and we’re blaming the new kids on the block – the millennials. We’ve moved on from blaming Gen Y and X so it’s logical that generation myopia carries on!
Yet despite millennials being more equipped to handle technology, change, flexibility and agility than any other generation, they’re copping the flack for being disloyal and impatient. But don’t forget other generations did the exact same thing. Truth is this is the first time in history we have a generation gap of 50 years in the workplace with each generation bringing its own dysfunction and functionalities.
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The impact theatre can have on an audience is immediate and enduring. Sound, set, design, costumes and environment gives context and place. The acts follow – some predicable, some not and the end often comes when we least expect it. Similar principles apply in the workplace where the environment sets the tone, mood and feeling well before a word has been uttered or a demand made. The capacity to shape an outcome rests with each person despite what is said but more often than not because of how we engage. Yet if leaders put on the mantle of a theatre producer/ director, script writer, set or costume designer and created a better all-round experience rather than a series of disconnected explanations my bet is that people would communicate and connect long after the lights are turned off in the meeting or ‘bored’ rooms… Yes, bored rooms…
So if communication is everyone’s responsibility it means that everyone has to play an active role in engaging and directing and not stop hoping or whinging about the way it was or should be. While we may not be able to play out all endings ahead of time at least we can do our best to write the script more carefully, edit out what doesn’t or hasn’t worked and write in a better version of our meetings and outcomes.
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No longer is public speaking for heroes only who can fire-up workplaces and deliver burning messages. Public speaking is everyone’s responsibility, but if Public Speaking isn’t your thing, it’s time to get prepared to fight fire with fire. Do this by being brilliantly prepared and ding your homework before your mouthwork; Making your weapon of choice your attitude; Protecting yourself from the stench of other’s hot air; Surrounding yourself with smart people; and stepping into the footprint of those bigger than yourself. While dragons may have their impact in mythology, your impact will be determined by your ability to be real, relevant and resilient when speaking publicly.
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Do you cut people off in conversation?
While we may not like to ‘fess’ up, it’s happened to almost everyone – and we’ve either been the victim or the perpetrator. Yes, most people have suffered from premature exasperation and have jumped all over someone in a conversation, leaving both parties frustrated, angry and/or hurt.
One way to control your impulses to interrupt the flow of conversation is to learn how to stop speaking before others stop listening. We have a choice in how to connect and respond, but often forget it’s not just our choice that matters – what matters is the response we want and how flexible we can be in order to get what we need.
So how do you change the brutal art of interjection to the significant art of communication?
Ricky Nowak interview with Ed Phillips on 2UE 27th April 2017 on Successful Conversations
Ricky explains the rules to having a successful conversation.
Ricky specialises in building top performing teams and individuals for many of Australia, New Zealand and Asia's leading organisations, and is an energetic motivational conference speaker, corporate trainer and executive coach.